After a long couple years of Covid, your complex pool finally opens up. You gather some things and grab your child to head down and meet some other friends for some fun in the sun.
Sitting by the pool, you feel these unwanted stares from other people. You become the target of false accusations of having sneaked guests in without registering and paying for them by a busy body, and why? All because you’re Asian, your husband is white and your son is black.
That’s what happened to Carolyn, when she was trying to enjoy her day with friends who lived in the complex next door and had access to the pool. This incident led her down to fight unnecessary battles of prejudice and health issues all for having a different skin tone.
She is not alone.
You would think that being it’s 2022, people would have come to their senses and things would be different by now.
But racism is a deep-rooted issue in society that has been around for centuries.
Bottom line: the world is changing and families are changing along with it.
In the past, transracial adoption was quite rare, but nowadays it’s becoming more and more common.
Unfortunately, families who adopt children of a different race often face prejudices like these from the outside world.
What Can You Do To Alleviate Some Of This Type Of Stress?
Adopting a child of another race can be one of the most rewarding experiences a family can have.
It’s also not without its challenges, as you and your child will likely face some form of prejudice from the world outside your home.
But there are some tips that can help you deal with these types of individuals:
- Be prepared for the prejudice-There will always be people in the world who are prejudiced against others. It’s important to be prepared for this type of behavior so that you can deal with it in a constructive way. Discuss with your family what they might say or do if they encounter someone who is prejudiced against transracial adoption. This way, you will be able to handle the situation calmly and effectively if it does arise.
- Educate yourself about other cultures-Remember just because someone is of a different race does not mean that they are automatically familiar with other cultures. However, it’s still beneficial to educate yourself about other cultures so that you can better understand and relate to your child. Knowledge is power.
- Speak up when you see or hear prejudice. If you witness someone being prejudiced against someone else, speak up! This includes speaking up if you hear someone making racist or insensitive remarks about another person or group of people. It can be difficult to do, but it’s important to stand up for what is right.
Transracial adoption can be a beautiful thing—but it isn’t always easy.
By arming yourself with knowledge, seeking out diverse social activities, and advocating for change whenever possible, you can create a loving and supportive home environment for your child—despite what the outside world may say or think.
Love is love and it comes in all shapes and sizes!