Social media seems to be the modern-day time capsule for many married couples. Pictures of fancy dinner dates, elegant vacations and flawless family photos can display a perfect life and happy family to the rest of the world. However, posts like these often only show highlight reels and not the signs of a turbulent courtship.

The digital trail of memories can exacerbate the distress often caused by divorce. When emotions run high, some ex-spouses may use those same outlets to make posts that may hurt them later on. Because of this, people should be cautious about what they put online as anything they post could be used against them in divorce proceedings.

Using social media during a divorce

Ex-spouses may want to avoid these online behaviors:

  • Badmouthing their ex-spouse: Partners may have harsh feelings towards their ex. However, Facebook and Twitter are not always the best places to rant. Doing so could alienate mutual followers while putting private details on a public platform. If one needs to vent, they may want to talk to a trusted friend, family member or therapist instead.
  • Posting pictures of partying or drinking: Uploading images with alcoholic beverages in hand can be damaging to either partner, even if they don’t have a drinking problem. It can be especially problematic if they are in a custody battle, as such photos could be used as proof that they’re irresponsible caretakers.
  • Posting about their dating life: Some people quickly find a new love interest while still going through a divorce. However, posting photos with a new significant other may increase feelings of resentment with their former spouse, which can make reaching a settlement in all areas of the separation more difficult.
  • Posting things that involve their minor children: children should be kept away from social media, especially when their parents are going through a divorce.  This may not be a sign of good parenting.

Couples should be cautious about what they post

By monitoring their online behavior, couples can speed up their divorce settlements and focus on moving forward. For those in Southern California with questions regarding social media usage and divorce may want to contact a family law attorney. They can help answer their questions and help them understand the legal consequences of what they put online.