The holidays can be a wonderful time for families to come together and celebrate the year that was, but it can also be a challenging time.
You want to make sure that everyone is having fun and enjoying themselves, but it’s easy to get overwhelmed with all of the activities going on.
With (newly) adopted children, not only can they feel a sense of grief but certain things around the holidays can be a reminder of what they once had and lost, making them become overstimulated and dysregulated. Be patient, considerate and kind to watch how they are adjusting.
It’s important that everyone feels included and has a good time during these festivities.
Here’s some tips to help you navigate through the holiday season.
- Figure out exactly what it is you really want to do-As parents we have a tendency of overdoing it during the holidays. Trying to make it to every party, dances, holiday dinners, shopping, wrapping presents, baking, and so on.
There just never seems to be enough hours in the day to get it all done.
Make a plan for everything and then take half of it away. Decide what you can intentionally let go of and feel good about it, so as not to over stress yourself or your family.
It’s a good idea to keep some empty days for you and your family to unwind together.
- Find out what your kids want to do-Communicate with your kids to see what they’re interested in doing and then plan some fun activities around those interests with family members or friends.
Remember, it’s important not to overload your child with too much activity because it will only make them tired which is more likely to lead to frustration, temper tantrums, and meltdowns.
Watch the sugar overload and keep it simple but fun so they can enjoy their time.
- Have a backup plan-This is very important. Even when you plan things out to a tee, sometimes things fall through. You’re exhausted, someone gets sick, or maybe you get to that celebration and you’re just not feeling it. It is a good idea to have a backup plan to excuse yourself (you have to go home and take care of the dogs, or maybe you have to check on your elderly parent or neighbor).
Whatever the excuse is, you don’t need to go into a detailed explanation. People can be on a need to know basis. You decide what it is that they need to know. Use your discretion and exit quietly.
- Be kind to yourself. Take the time to reward yourself for a job well done.
The holidays are a time for celebration, not stress. Take it easy on yourself and your family this holiday season by slowing down the pace of life as much as possible. Savor the moments together and make lasting memories.
Consider implementing some or all of these tips into your daily routine now so you can enjoy a more meaningful, relaxed holiday season!