Social media has become a huge part of our lives. We use it to connect with friends, family, and followers.
But what happens when social media is used during a divorce?
Can it influence the outcome?
There is no easy answer to this question.
Every divorce is different and each person’s experience with social media will be different.
It was much simpler in the past when people had to rely on word-of-mouth or the local grapevine to find out what was happening in their community. Things moved more privately at a slower pace.
Now as quick as it’s typed it’s out there for everyone to see and it spreads like wildfire.
Making an already sensitive situation go from bad to worse quickly.
What Can You Do To Avoid The Stress Of Social Media?
Be mindful of what is being posted on social media.
Because anything you post on social media can be used against you in Court.
So, you really need to be careful about what you share online.
Here’s some things to avoid all together:
- Do not say anything bad about your spouse. Venting about your divorce or tearing your soon to be ex down is a big NO NO. It would not look good for your character if the defense attorney provides a printout of posts to the Court showing your ugly side (which let’s face it, we all have at times when we’re upset).
- Do not post partying pictures. Showing pictures of alcohol in your hand can be damaging to either partner, even if you don’t have a drinking problem. It could be especially problematic when it comes time for custody battles as such pictures may end up being used as proof that you are an unfit parent due your lack of judgment and empathy towards others’ feelings/needs.
- Try not to post pictures about your dating life. Some people can jump right back in the dating pool like they haven’t missed a step while going through a divorce. This can create feelings of resentment with your former spouse making bringing the divorce to an amicable settlement more difficult. Tread lightly.
Social media can have a profound impact on someone’s mental health going through a divorce. It can be easy to compare your current situation to the seemingly perfect lives of your friends and family.
This can lead to feelings of loneliness, inadequacy, and depression. Additionally, social media can be a breeding ground for rumors and gossip.
You may have to deal with unsolicited advice, hurtful comments, and overwhelming sympathy from well-meaning friends and family members. It can be a no win situation at times.
So what can you post? Anything and everything positive. Positive things bring positive results. Leave all the negativity at the front door so to speak.
You may want to take a break from social media altogether or limit your exposure to only positive channels and influencers. By doing so, you can help protect your mental health during an already challenging time.
Remember to be kind to yourself and take care of you!