A lot has been written about the challenges of military parenting, but there’s one aspect of parenting in the military that doesn’t get talked about nearly enough: co-parenting.
Whether you are married or divorced, if you share custody of your children with your ex-spouse, then you’re a co-parent.
And if you’re a co-parent in the military, you face unique challenges that civilian co-parents simply don’t have to deal with.
Frequent moves and long deployments can make it difficult for both parents to stay connected to their children.
This can lead to disagreements about parenting styles and strategies.
In order for military co-parents to successfully raise their children, they need to be able to communicate effectively and work together as a team.
What Are Some Ways To Co-Parent As A Military Parent?
Military life isn’t easy, and co-parenting is no exception. If you’re a military parent, here are some things to keep in mind as you navigate co- parenting arrangements.
Establishing and Maintaining Consistent Communication-In a world where military members can be deployed for long periods of time, it’s not always possible to have face to face communication with the other parent. When this happens, parents should get creative in how they communicate about raising their children by having access through scheduling regular phone calls/video chats, shared online calendars, daily emails or text messages which allows them to feel connected even when they’re far away.
Dealing with Deployment-Deployment is often an unavoidable reality. When one parent is deployed, it’s important to establish a clear plan for how parenting duties will be handled in their absence. One of the most important things you can do is to establish a clear plan of duties. This will help to ensure that everyone knows their responsibilities and that the household runs smoothly in the absence of the deployed parent. Talk to your children about their needs and concerns, and be sure to involve them in the planning process.
Ensuring Your Children’s wellbeing-Ensuring that your children are happy and healthy should be your top priority as a parent regardless of whether or not you are in the military. One way to help ease your mind when you’re away from your children is by staying in contact with them as much as possible. In addition, it’s important to make sure that your children have someone they can rely on whether it is another family member, a friend ,or even their teacher. Establishing a support system for your children will help reduce stress levels for both you and your children and make it easier for everyone involved .
Navigating Child Custody Issues-Child custody issues can be complicated for any family, but they can be especially challenging for military families due to the transient nature of military life. If you’re a military parent dealing with child custody issues, it’s important to consult with an attorney who is familiar with the laws in your state as well as any federal laws that may apply to your situation.
Parenting is hard enough under the best of circumstances because let’s face it, children do not come with manuals. Trying your best to manage under the most difficult situations is all anyone can really ask for. Just know you are not alone.