The term ‘child custody’ indicates the rights and duties shared by parents with regards to caring for their children. The term ‘visitation’ on the other hand refers to how both parents will meet their kids and spend time with them.

It is suggested that a couple with children, filing for divorce in California, hire an experienced and reputable child custody lawyer. The attorney can have a detailed discussion with the client and analyze their specific case by focusing on the available facts.

These typically include:

1.  the nature of the relationship between each parent and the children (till date)

2.  a comprehensive analysis of any key issues that relate to the kids’ safety, health, education and overall welfare

3.  proof of neglect or abuse

4.  an assessment of the existing status quo and planning of the future by taking into consideration the best interest of the child

Visitation Orders In California

According to the California Legislature, the state courts shall prioritize the health, welfare and safety of the children while making custody or visitation related decisions. The state also has additional public welfare policy that guarantees consistent and frequent contact between children and both parents. This law encourages both partners to share all rights and duties associated with child rearing. It is important to understand that custody decisions are not dependent on a parent’s lifestyle, marital status, sexual orientation or religious beliefs.

The state of California offers these 4 types of visitation orders:

Scheduled Visitation

According to child custody legal experts, it is a good idea for parents to create a comprehensive visitation plan in order to avoid any confusion and conflicts. This means creating a visitation schedule that has the date/time details for children to meet their parents. These types of visitation schedules generally include vacations, holidays and special occasions such as birthdays, father’s day etc.

Reasonable Visitation

Unlike scheduled visitation orders, reasonable visitation orders may not always have every single detail regarding the visits. These orders will probably be open-ended which means that parents have the liberty to work out timings and dates mutually and as per their convenience. Such plans work quite smoothly when separated spouses share a friendly relationship are comfortable communicating and being flexible with each other.

Supervised Visitation

The employment of supervised visitation is usually done in two kinds of situations. It is commonly used when the court is doubtful about the sincerity of the visiting parent and feels that they cannot be completely trusted as far as the safety of the child is concerned. The lack of trust might be because the parent has previously been charged with a sexual offense or violent crime. Other factors could also contribute to the court taking this decision.

In the second situation, there may have been an estrangement between the visiting parent and the child due to some reasons. For this reason, the two require supervised visitation, at least for a certain period of time, till they get comfortable in each other’s company.

A supervised visitation order may ultimately turn into a scheduled or reasonable visitation arrangement.

No Visitation

The option of no visitation is exercised when a visit to the parent, even under supervision, might prove to be emotionally or physically dangerous for the child. In such cases, the court decides that it is best for the children and parent to be in absolutely no contact.

Besides custody orders, judges also usually draft child support orders. Custody and child support orders are separate. Hence, a parent cannot refuse their partner from seeing the child just because they aren’t providing the child support ordered by the court.

Maya Shulman, Esq.

Shulman Family Law Group


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Restraining orders are also often referred to as “protective orders”  and can help safeguard an individual from all types of physical/sexual abuse or harassment. The individual who files for a restraining order is referred to as the “protected person” and the individual against whom the order has been filed is called the “restrained person”.

Why You May Need A Restraining Order

There is no denying the fact that a divorce has the potential to bring out the worst in people. Typically, the bad/unacceptable behavior related to a divorce not only victimizes the other partner but could also have a negative impact on the children (if any). The actions of a resentful spouse could lead to significant financial and emotional hardship. The good news is that the effects of such behavior can be minimized with the help of a TRO or temporary restraining order.


There are certain conditions that qualify you to get a restraining order for domestic violence. You and the individual you wish to restrain should be:

1.   Registered domestic partners or married

2.   Dating or ex-dating partners

3.   Divorce/separated

4.   In a live-in relationship or former live-in partners

5.   Parents to a child together

Types Of Restraining Orders

The California Courts provide four main kinds of restraining orders to civilians. Out of these, two are applicable to spouse-related situations. These are:

Domestic Violence Restraining Order (DVROs)

A person can request for a domestic violence restraining order in case they have suffered abuse from somebody with whom they share an intimate relationship (registered domestic  partners/married/divorced/dating/separated/live-in partner and so on). This type of restraining order can also be filed for other close relations like in-laws, parent, sister, brother, grandfather, grandmother and so on.


The court generally considers ‘abuse’ as physical assault, sexual abuse, serious threats of hurting someone, harassment, stalking, hitting and destructing someone’s personal life and peace. If you’re suffering any of these abuses and are afraid or feel controlled by someone (for example, ex-spouse, current spouse, ex-boyfriend, or ex-girlfriend), it might be useful to consult a counselor specializing in domestic violence in order to get a restraining order.


There are some key advantages of getting a domestic violence restraining order. The restrained person gets an order from the court with regards to the following:

1.  The restrained person cannot come near you or contact you or your relatives (including your children).

2.  He/she will need to shift out of the common residence.

3.  They would need to avoid your workplace and your kids’ schools besides staying away from the home.

4.  Offer child support and partner/spousal support (if domestic partners or married).

5.  Adhere to the visitation and child custody orders.

6.  Possess no weapons, such as a gun.

Automatic Temporary Restraining Orders (ATROs)

There are some states in the United States, like California, that have adopted a very practical approach to maintaining the status quo between partners from the starting of the divorce proceedings. They use ATROs or Automatic Temporary Restraining Orders that automatically become effective as soon as the couple files for a divorce in the court.


What can an ATRO do? An Automatic Temporary Restraining Order is aimed to deal with potentially problematic situations and actions. Such orders could have terms related to whether or not a spouse can sell off a property, make changes to life insurance beneficiaries, take out money from joint bank accounts, move the children to another state before finalization of the divorce, and so on. The terms of an ATRO are equally applicable to both partners, irrespective of who filed for the divorce.


Maya Shulman, Esq.

Shulman Family Law Group


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If you’re looking to adopt a foster child and became a foster parent in California, then the state will provide you with all necessary resources needed to parent a foster child effectively.


It is important to understand that a foster parent takes up the responsibility of providing temporary care to a child when they are removed from their natural family. Such kids are usually separated from their biological family because there might be concerns regarding their safety and well-being. The primary interest of the state is the foster child’s welfare. Therefore, it will undertake a thorough assessment of your residence in order to ensure that you have the means to provide care to the child.


If you’ve decided to become a foster parent while living in California, you would need to undergo a comprehensive education and training process along with extensive background checks before getting approval for foster child care.


According to the guidelines issued by the state of California, a parent may own or rent a home as long as it is safe and offers sufficient space to accommodate all family members. The most important requirement for adoption is that the child is given a lot of love, guidance and support.


Home Requirements Set by State Government in California

While there may not be very strict regulations regarding renting/ownership of property for foster parents, there are a set of requirements which the state would want to check before giving an approval for foster childcare. These include the following:


-A bedroom shall not be shared by more than 2 children.

-Opposite sex children shall not be put in the same bedroom.

-A bedroom cannot be utilized as a passageway to any other room in the house.

-Each child needs to have their own personal bed with clean linens and a mattress. There should be an appropriate distance between beds. Cribs or bassinets need to be arranged for infants.

-An all-purpose room cannot be used as a bedroom, e.g. an attic converted into a bedroom or a garage converted into a bedroom.

-Each child should have appropriate closet or drawer space inside his or her bedroom.

-Parents must take all necessary steps to ensure safety in home areas such as pools, kitchens and fireplaces.

-There should be proper disposal /storage of all waste in the house.

-The home should be installed with functional sprinklers and/or smoke detectors.


Broadly speaking, the responsibility of a foster parent is to provide a safe, stable and loving temporary environment for the foster child/children. They take care of the child till the issues with the biological parents get resolved.


Licensing Requirements for a Foster Parent

In California, the state identifies several different kinds of foster homes that offer varied care and services to children. An emergency foster home, for example, will provide temporary care to children under the age of 12 years when they are at a direct risk of staying in their natural home. The parents working in such foster care home are in direct contact with social workers so that they can analyze and stabilize the child’s requirements over a period of 59 days.


You will naturally require a license to become a foster parent in California. For this process, a licensing official will come to your house to meet you and your family members. As mentioned earlier, the law mandates minimum space and personal safety requirements. A foster parent will work in close association with members of a social service agency in order to decide what type of foster child is most suitable for their specific home situation.

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Understanding domestic violence in California divorce

There are millions among us in America alone that are subjected to some kind of domestic violence every year. And while the awareness is gradually increasing, a majority of the victims are still largely unaware of what exactly falls under the scope of domestic violence and continue to suffer in silence for years before finally opening up. To help you understand domestic violence better, we here have a discussion on the subject and its implication in a California divorce.

What is domestic violence?


Unfortunately, a common misconception among people is that they have not been abused until there is some kind of physical violence involved. The fact, however, is that domestic violence can involve all kinds of emotional, mental, physical and even economic abuse. According to Californian law, domestic violence is defined as any act that involves:

  • Sexual assault
  • Intentional or reckless bodily harm with the motive of hurting someone
  • Trying to threaten someone by making them afraid of some serious harm
  • Threatening behavior including stalking, hitting, harassing, disturbing peace of destroying property belonging to someone
  • Sending messages by text, email, telephone or on social media that are intended to harass or disturb peace of the targeted person

Abuse is considered as domestic violence if it is committed against the following relations:

  • Present or ex-spouse
  • People who are related by marriage or blood
  • Partners who have children together
  • Partners who have been engaged or are dating
  • Children in a family

What is Domestic Violence Restraining Orders?


Someone who has been subjected to domestic violence can request a restraining order from the court. These restraining orders are designed to protect the victims from any kinds of threats or abuse in their relationships. There are majorly four types of restraining orders:

  • Domestic Violence Restraining Order- Which can be used for people who have been abused in a close relationship such as a marriage or blood relation.
  • Civil Harassment Restraining Orders- Which can be used for coworkers, roommates, neighbors and distant family members including cousins, aunts and so on
  • Elder or Dependent adult abuse restraining order- Which can be used for victims that are either above 65 years or age or are 18 to 64 year-old dependents.
  • Workplace Violence Restraining Order- Which can be filed by an employer to protect any of his/her employee against harassment or stalking.

How a restraining order can help you against domestic violence in California?


A restraining order is an order issued by the court that immediately goes into effect and prohibits certain activities of the restrained individual. The restraining order can order the restrained person to:

  • Move out of your house with immediate effect
  • Stay away from your workplace, home or your kid’s school
  • Refrain from initiating any kind of contact with you or your children
  • Stay away from your pets
  • Follow any instructions regarding child custody or visitation
  • Follow any instructions regarding child or spousal support and make all payments on time

However, contrary to popular misconception, a restraining order can neither:

  • Dissolve your domestic partnership or marriage
  • Nor establish the paternity of your kids with the person who has been restrained unless the victimized partner agrees to it.

When a restraining order is issued by a court in the United States, the information is entered into the CLETS or statewide computer system that is accessible to all law enforcement officers in the state. So, if you have been issued a restraining order in California and you plan to move to a different state, you can inform the local police officials of your new place of residence about the order and make sure that it works there as well.

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Types of Property As Recognized By California Courts and Their Division in a Divorce

Among the many aspects that require a lot of thought in a divorce, asset division is one of the most critical one. More so when the people involved are affluent and high net worth individuals.

In California, the laws pertaining to division of property are unique unlike in states where an equitable distribution based on many factors such as length of marriage or income are taken into consideration while dividing the assets.

Marital property is divided on a 50/50 basis based on the theory of “community property” in California.

Types of Property Recognized By California Courts

Courts in the Golden State recognize three different types of property that form the basis for division in a divorce:

  • Community property
  • Quasi-community property
  • Separate property

Community property:  Assets purchased or owned after marriage is termed community property. Such assets can include the house, vacation homes, jewellery, vehicles, yachts and pensions.

Quasi-community property: If either of the couples owned or purchased any asset in a different state before moving to California, it is considered quasi community property.

Separate property: This category includes assets that were purchased or owned before getting married. Gifts received during the marriage or bequest are also considered separate property. Any asset acquired after the separation of the couple is also deemed to be separate property.

Division of Different Types of Property in California:

As for community property, the law in California favors a 50/50 split. All assets acquired while the couple is married, is to be divided equally unless there is a written agreement that specifies otherwise.

The net community asset is derived by subtracting any joint obligations or debts from the total market value of assets and each spouse receives exactly half of this amount in the absence of any other contrary agreement.

When it comes to physical assets that cannot obviously be split into half (such as house or a valuable painting), the law provides for a fair division of the total net worth of all assets. What this means is that while one retains the residence, the vehicle and jewels, the other gets the real estate investments, family owned business that are of equal worth.

Any employee benefit or retirement contributions that were started after entering into the marriage is also treated as community property and is to be divided equally. If the contributions or investments in retirement plan were made before getting married, that particular amount will be deducted before arriving at the amount to be distributed equally.

Pensions are divided in two ways. One way is by dividing the number of years the couple spent in marriage while contributing to the pension plan by the total years of contribution by the eligible employee. Termed “reservation of jurisdiction” this is the most common way of dividing pensions. The other method involves an assessment of the total market worth of the pensions that is translated into actual cash settlement for the spouse who has contributed to the pensions, while the other gets to retain any property that is worth the amount.

Quasi community property that is acquired after marriage is treated as community property under California law and is divided in the same way. If the property was acquired in another state before getting married, it is considered separate property.

Separate property is the wealth or assets that were possessed or acquired prior to getting married. Gifts or inheritances received during marriage by one person and any property or asset bought with a cash gift received is also considered separate property.  Such property remains with the individual owner.

All debts that are incurred during the time that the couple is married are also to be distributed equally among the partners as per California law.

Many times property division after divorce is not straightforward, and can be confusing especially when extensive assets are involved. Consult a legal professional specializing in such matters for better clarity.

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Same Sex Couple Divorce in California

Since same sex marriage is legal in California, it is natural for same sex divorce to be a practice in the state too.

Divorce is basically the termination of a marriage that renders a person free to remarry, if desired. As far as the divorce law in California is concerned, an individual simply needs to inform the court about “irreconcilable differences” with the spouse in order to get a divorce proceeding started. In California, the law is of “no-fault” divorces. Therefore, the focus of the state divorce regulation is on equal division of all assets between the spouses.

The U.S. Supreme Court made a historic decision in June 2015 with regards to the famous Obergefell v. Hodges case: All the legal restrictions against same-sex marriage were removed in the United States. Before the ruling, several gay couples faced multiple challenges in getting a divorce, at least in certain states. Even though same-sex couples had the legal right to get divorced in the state in which they got married, they usually faced a problem if they moved to a different location. Also, majority of the states demand that at least one spouse needs to stay in the state of residence (where the divorced has been filed) for a certain period of time in order for the divorce to be granted.

Issues Related to Same Sex Divorce

The common issues that come up in any divorce case include division of assets (property, vehicles, jewelry etc.), child custody, visitation and support, spousal support, debt responsibility and others.

When a same sex couple files for a divorce, certain complications may arise in all these issues. For instance, child custody is a key area of conflict in same-sex divorce. In this type of marriage, only one parent is actually the biological parent of the child. So unless the couple manages to arrive at a compromise on its own, the courts would have to intervene and look at the biological data and alleged caregiver roles in addition to other relevant legal information to determine child custody.

A big complication that arises in a same sex couple divorce in California is related to the division of assets. It’s been a little less than 5 years since same-sex marriage became legal in California. So what happens in cases that have couples staying together for over 15 years but facing legal prohibition in getting married? A spouse could present a very powerful argument that “equitable” asset division would include at least some of the income and assets that were accumulated in those 15 years and not simply consider the short time that they were legally married.

Domestic Partnership in Same Sex Divorce

Same sex couple divorce in slightly different from regular divorce cases with regards to domestic partnership. In other words, in the case of same sex divorce, the involved parties may also need to dissolve the domestic partnership.

In the state of California, domestic partnerships are seen as similar to marriages. So a same sex couple would have to dissolve a marriage as well as a domestic partnership in case it is legally ruled by both contracts.

Residency Requirements in Same Sex Divorce

As mentioned earlier, it is possible for a same sex couple to get a divorce in California if either of the spouses has stayed for a minimum of six months in the state before filing for a request. Also, one of the spouses has to spend at least three months in the county where the divorce is to be filed.

In case these requirements aren’t met, a same-sex couple can also get a legal separation for a certain period of time.

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Legal Separation: An Alternative to Divorce in California

A common alternative to a divorce is ‘legal separation’. In the event that you are unable to or do not wish to get divorced, you can request the court for a legal separation.

What is a legal separation?

In simple terms, a legal separation will not terminate a domestic partnership or marriage. But you aren’t eligible to enter into any other domestic partnership or remarry in case of a legal separation. For couples that are legally separated in California, it might be possible to file for a divorce sometime later if they meet some specific legal requirements.

There are couples who pick this alternative to divorce in order to put a halt to the relationship, without completely ending the marriage. The reasons for choosing legal separation over divorce could be many. These typically include religious and/or practical reasons. For instance, a couple may opt for legal separation if they agree to use one spouse’s health care plan to maintain the other. But if a couple is getting a legal separation for reasons pertaining to health insurance, it is important to ensure that there is no disqualifying scenario under the legal separation plan.

There are some couples who fail to meet the residency requirements essential for filing for a divorce in California. Both spouses may not like to wait and get the separation process started as quickly as possible. For such couples, legal separation is a good alternative to divorce.

There are certain things that are common between a divorce and a legal separation. For instance, just like a divorce, you could request the courts to take out order related to:

  • Partner/spousal support
  • Custody
  • Child support and visitation
  • Debt payment responsibilities
  • Division of property

Legal separation in California

In the state of California, your spouse needs to give consent to a legal separation for it to valid. Alternatively, if your spouse/partner fails to respond to the served divorce petition, then you are entitled to a legal separation.

For majority of the couples, there aren’t any real benefits of a legal separation except for a divorce. This kind of an arrangement is usually appropriate when the relationship is severely deteriorated and the couple has no desire to remain married, yet they cannot get divorced due to some personal reasons. The state of California does have one other benefit for couples seeking a legal separation. It is possible to fasten the divorce proceedings if you first file for a legal separation in the court.

Filing for a divorce or a legal separation will involve almost identical steps. You would need to file for a petition and disclose all details related to your finances, both to the court as well as to your partner. Numerous couples choose to handle their legal separation on their own, but a divorce attorney in the state could help make the planning of divorce an easier process. It also usually ends up saving costs.

When filing for a divorce in a specific county of California, the individual must reside for a minimum of three months in that county. If they fail to meet this requirement, they can choose to get a legal separation first and amend their Petition later when filing for a divorce (after residing in the stated county for 3 months).

Difference between “separation agreement” and “legal separation”

In California, a couple that wishes to separate could enter into something known as the “separation agreement”. This is basically a legally binding agreement that addresses various aspects of the separation such as spousal support, child custody, alimony and property division. But it is different from legal separation in the sense that couples are not required to visit the court for entering into separation agreement.


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Your Options to Respond to a Divorce Petition


The law in the United States of America allows for either spouse to terminate a legal relationship by appealing to the court. In California, registered domestic partners or a married couple could terminate the legal marital status six months after filing the first documents in the court. The document copies are sent to the respondent once filed with the court.


Getting served with a divorce petition


If you have been served a divorce petition, then you automatically become the respondent and your first duty is to read the petition papers carefully. The petitioner’s demands are stated in the Form FL-100 (i.e. the petition). Form FL-110 or The Summons (Family Law) will provide critical information regarding your rights as well as the separation/divorce procedure. This document also contains restraining orders that limit the respondent’s options with what they could do with their money, property and other debts or assets.


You could easily compare the divorce procedure to a lawsuit. So when the respondent is served with a dissolution/divorce petition, he/she is being sued. It is important for the respondent to take some action with regards to the petition allegations within a fixed period of time (generally 30 days). Otherwise, they would be giving up their right to fight on various grounds such as child custody, property division and so on.


There are various options available to a respondent with regards to responding to a divorce petition:


  1. Take no action


When a respondent decides to take no action, it means that the demands of the domestic partner or spouse, as mentioned in the divorce petition, would likely be granted. The decision of the judge regarding property, custody (in case the couple has children together) and support will be dependent on what the petitioner has asked for in the divorce petition.


This particular situation is also referred to as a “true default”. The reason is simple: the respondent is “defaulting” because he or she is not taking any action and avoiding any kind of involvement in the case.


  1. Dual response


This happens when the respondent files a legal response in the court while also working out an agreement with their domestic partner/spouse regarding the issues stated in the petition. This is also referred to as an “uncontested” case since there is no fight between the partners regarding the issues, that is, the terms of legal separation or divorce are agreed upon.


  1. File a response in disagreement


In this case, the respondent files a response to the petition in the court while disagreeing with the demands of their domestic partner or spouse. This situation is referred to as a “contested” case because the petitioner and the respondent are not in agreement and require the courts to intervene and take a balanced decision in the case.


Regardless of whether a respondent chooses to respond to a divorce petition or not, it is possible to work on an agreement regarding ending the marriage/legal domestic partnership. The key areas where an agreement needs to be worked out include:


  • Division of property and debt
  • Offering of partner/spousal support
  • Terms of custody, child support and visitation, in case the couple has children together


Sometimes, couples are successful in agreeing on all these issues, and at other times, they may agree on only a few of them. When signing the agreement, it is important to ensure that you comprehend everything written in it. There are a few legal requirements that need to be met for issues such as child support. Therefore, it is critical to know and follow the regulations.

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8 Things You Probably Didn’t Know About Surrogacy


Surrogacy has become quite popular among couples who are unable to have a baby and even among same-sex couples. It is an excellent alternative to starting a family but requires a thorough understanding of several legal aspects as they might vary across jurisdictions.


For those who are unfamiliar with the term ‘surrogacy’, it refers to a process in which a baby is carried by a woman with the knowledge that he/she would not be her own. Women who are unable to have their own children may look for a surrogate. A doctor typically implants the woman’s eggs and the man’s sperms into the surrogate for the birth of the fetus. In other words, the surrogate is like an incubator for the couple’s future baby.


Here are 8 important things that you need to take note of when planning for surrogacy:


  1. Finding a surrogate may take time


Not every woman can qualify to be a surrogate. In fact, most agencies have highly strict requirements for surrogates. For instance, the woman should have had at least one healthy pregnancy with an uncomplicated delivery. In addition to this, she would have to undergo various psychological and health screenings besides reporting financial stability.


  1. Get information about your state’s surrogacy laws


Several people assume that the state surrogacy laws are one of the last things that they need to deal with. In reality, this is one of the most important matters in surrogacy. While some states have “surrogate-friendly” laws, such as California, others might have multiple restrictions that could interfere with the process. For instance, paid surrogacy is absolutely banned in some states. Therefore, some couples might think of finding a surrogate living in a different state, where the delivery can take place smoothly without any legal hassles.


  1. Pick an IVF clinic as soon as possible


Selection of an IVF clinic is a key step in surrogacy planning. This is where all the parties involved, that is, the surrogacy agency, the surrogate, the parents, and the egg donor will come together. The IVF clinic will be able to analyze the case thoroughly and raise any red flags regarding the component parts. This will help address potential issues immediately.

  1. Consider family or friends for surrogacy


Sometimes, it is a good idea to ask a relative or a friend to become your surrogate. While this could be controversial, it may help save a lot of money since surrogacy is quite an expensive procedure and involves a number of complicated legalities.


  1. Don’t ignore the insurance aspect


It is important to understand everything about insurance when planning for surrogacy. You need to know if your surrogate has a personal insurance or if you need to get her coverage. The to-be parents might also like to think about whether their new-born baby will be covered under their insurance or a new-born coverage needs to be purchased.


  1. No payment for surrogacy


The majority of the surrogacy arrangements globally are altruistic. This means that besides covering certain medical costs, the surrogate mother does not take any money for her womb services from the parents. But commercial surrogacy is also being commonly practiced worldwide, including various states in the U.S.


  1. The matching process


Intended parents and potential surrogates are matched on the basis of various factors, like common beliefs. These could include selective termination of the plan of action in unexpected scenarios such as if the baby comes out with a birth defect.


  1. You can be a part of the experience


Don’t hesitate to participate in as many doctor appointments as possible. This is a magical experience and something that you will cherish forever.

Commercial surrogacy

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It isn’t uncommon for men and women to opt for relocation following a divorce. In fact, it may be one of the easiest ways to get past the unpleasantness of the situation and make a new beginning in a new place. Unfortunately, shifting base to a new state or country could lead to problems when the marriage bears minor children and the partners are in disagreement with regards to the relocation. An important factor to deal with in relocation is to prepare the minor children to live away from the other parent.


Notification of move and custodial plan


The court typically requires a parent seeking relocation to give notification to their ex-partner well in advance before making the move. The state laws typically specify the timelines for notification.


Your lawyer in the state of California may suggest providing a proper custodial plan to the other parent along with the move notification. This enables them to maintain a constant and frequent connection with the minor kids.


A custodial plan is also a good way to help your minor children deal with the new situation. Based on the distance to your new location, a custodial plan gives sufficient time to arrange for visits during the kids’ summer vacation and other holidays. The plan may also include airfare to the noncustodial parent for visits or other effective compromises which prevent time loss while also maintaining their ability to visit the children on a regular basis.


California requires a consent from the noncustodial parent along with a notification for the move. The matter may be taken to the court in case there is disagreement between the parents regarding relocation.


Here are a few tips that could help prepare your minor children for relocation after a divorce:


Make concrete plans


Your minor child/children will no longer be living close to your ex-spouse. This is going to be a big change in their life and therefore you need to sit them down and have a long talk about how this would work. It is a good idea to let the noncustodial parent know that you would want them to have a good, healthy relationship with the child/children, regardless of the distance.


Working together to make a plan for visitation and other things should be done immediately after the relocation decision. This plan can then be presented to the minor children as it will help ease their anxiety regarding not seeing the other parent too frequently. The idea is to give ample reassurance to the minor children that the noncustodial parent will continue to have a significant parenting role in their lives.


You can even create a calendar for your minor children and highlight the days when the other parent would be visiting them or when they would be taking holidays together.


Make use of technology


Technology has made our lives a lot easier and given us the gift of instant connection. Modern teenagers are extremely tech-savvy and may even teach you how to use things such as instant messenger, Skype and so on. So, another great way to prepare your minor children for the relocation is to encourage them to teach you and the noncustodial parent the amazing ways of connecting through cyberspace.


If your ex doesn’t have the knowledge about these things, he/she can get tips from the children and they can then easily connect with each other anytime, anywhere. This way, the distant parent would not miss out on any important events and milestones in your child’s life.


Emailing pictures frequently could also help maintain a healthy, thriving relationship between the children and the noncustodial parent.

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